7 People In Your Church Who Shouldn’t Lead Anything

Bad leaders kill good churches. It is extremely important to have good, Godly leaders in place throughout a church. Any person in any position of leadership can tear down the rest of the church at lightning speed. This goes for pastors, volunteer leaders, deacons, elders, trustees, Sunday school teachers, sound booth guys, small group leaders, and any other position of leadership in a church. Here are some people who should not be leading ANYTHING in your church.


1. Mean people

If you are a follower of Jesus Christ, to be perpetually mean and grumpy is not an option. “Mean” and “Leader” are antonyms as far as I am concerned. Good leaders lift people up, smile, display kindness and compassion and at the very least politeness. Do not allow mean-spirited people to lead. No one will want to serve or volunteer under a mean person – even if they are the most (or only) qualified person. It will also reflect poorly on the church as a whole if there are mean people in leadership positions. People are drawn to good leaders that build them up, teach them, love them, and lead by example. There is no place for mean people in church leadership.

2. Selfish people 

Good leaders are selfless, not selfish. They put the needs of everyone else ahead of their own needs. They want to build other people up, serve other people, and use their time and their energy in a way that benefits the people around them more than themselves. Bad leaders use their authority to get what they want and to force that on other people. They abuse their power to serve themselves rather than the people they have been called to lead. There is no room for selfishness in church leadership.

3. Arrogant people

Humility is perhaps the most important quality of a good church leader. It displays an accurate understanding of that person’s position and relationship to God and other people. Pride is the most common downfall of church leaders because it leads to so many problems. Humility on the other hand is the very spirit that Christians are called to exude. Church leaders are to treat others as better than themselves and more important than themselves. Prideful, arrogant people should not be leading.

4. Lazy people 

In our culture, people are almost always workaholics or lazy. Lazy people never get anything done. Lazy people value comfort, ease, and relaxation more than growth and progress. Churches need to be constantly changing, growing, and moving forward. Otherwise, they will get stuck, fall behind, and perhaps never recover. Good church leaders are hard workers that understand the importance of being content but never satisfied. When you are looking for someone to lead, look for a hard worker.

5. Hypocritical people 

We all hate these people. We often give them less grace than we should because we are all hypocritical to some degree, but there are some people who are excellent hypocrites. They stand up and condemn the very things that they themselves struggle with. Rather than being honest and repentant, they keep their dark side in the shadows and refuse to confess and repent. Look for honest leaders who will be honest about their failures, honest about their weaknesses, and who will repent. Unrepentant sin is always the most dangerous thing in any believer’s life. Do not allow exceptionally hypocritical people to lead.

6. Silent people

Good leaders speak up when they need to. They say the things that need to be said, have hard conversations, and stand up for what is right. Bad leaders keep their mouths shut when it matters most because they are too afraid of the consequences. Good leaders also know when to keep their mouths shut and listen.

7. Fearful people

Good leaders are courageous and bold. They lead people where they need to go and are not afraid of the scary things that come with walking down the right path. Though all people have natural fears, good leaders are not timid. They embrace the unknown and the dangers and fears that come with that. Church leaders that inspire growth and change must be strong enough and brave enough to set their fears aside in order to do the right thing.

What else would you add to this list? What would you take off? Please share your thoughts below!


6 thoughts on “7 People In Your Church Who Shouldn’t Lead Anything

  1. i think you make excellent points, but I somewhat agree and somewhat disagree with the first point. I understand that leaders shouldn’t be jerks, but also I think it is more of an honesty issue. If someone always has a smile on their face, then that sends the message that everything is perfect in their lives. I know when I have a bad day, I can be a jerk sometimes, though I try not to. So ultimately I understand your meaning, but I think it is a little vague. Maybe tie it in to your last point about being a good leader knows when to speak up and when to be quiet, a good leader would know when to be honest with their horrid day, but be respectful in the same instance too.


    • Hey Matt! I totally agree. Authenticity is HUGE. Being real is way more valuable than faking a smile! Ideally, of course, all of us leaders can find a way to be authentic AND kind no matter what is going on in our lives!


  2. Judgmental people. It’s hard to imagine that with all the moral relativism that has crept into so many religions today, but there are still (too) many people who, like the Pharisees of old, not only adopt a holier-than-thou attitude, but who act as though God Almighty has imbued them with not only the right, but the RESPONSIBILITY to sit in judgment (even as they cast that proverbial first stone). Those people generally kill a church through attrition, as those they have judged and found unworthy simply vote with their feet…


    • Completely agreed Nevin. Church leaders are perpetually guilty of hypocritical judgment and that certainly drives a church to death rather than life. Thanks for commenting!


  3. Perhaps humility is hardest for a leader to truly have when he or she needs to support others in leadership. That is when the Spirit enables a leader to be a real asset to another leader and fosters mutual love in the church. You made some good points.


    • Thanks Romelia, good thought. Humility is certainly a hard thing to find in church leaders these days. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!


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